Why am I afraid of marriage

I recently went home on a vacation. When my relatives stop by my home, they just asked me two questions.
1. How are you?
2. Why haven’t you got married yet ?

I have no answer on why I’m hesitant but here’s a little history…

When I’m 25, and my mom wants me to marry a girl…
I told mom that I’m not settled and I don’t even own a laptop. Yeah you heard right, Laptop! I said no to marriage because I did not have a laptop.
Btw, I bought a high config laptop with the help of my mom in a week.

At 26,
I told that I have to switch to a bigger company and earn more. I did get in to a decent company later.

Sometime during the age 27, while I was on my way home and when I came to know that the bride’s family is visiting us, I was about to get down from bus and run away. My uncle stopped me though. I somehow got rid of it.

When I’m 29, I had to go through a tough time convincing my mom and relatives that I’m not ready.

Then I got visa. Thanks to the US consulate officer for saving me from family pressure :). I flew to the US. That helped in delaying things.

I’m 30 now and when I asked mom an another year, so that I can save some money to buy a house in chennai. she said ‘Shut up’ :|.

So what are my expectations? Nothing!! Why I’m so hesitant? Here’s what I’m scared of…

  • Matrimony sites really suck. I did not like the idea of showing my picture and profile saying ‘I’m looking for a Bride’ to the world.
  • I’m not influenced by the statement ‘Single is simple, Double is trouble’ but somehow I feel that moving on from being single is an expensive sacrifice. :s
  • I hate sitting on a marriage hall for hours where the entire crowd is looking at me.

Ok, so how about loving someone ? Hmm, Love didn’t work out for me right from my childhood 😀

And…I have seen my friends and people who waited eagerly and very excited about their marriage. Is that so special?? I will post when I happen to experience those special and magical moments!

Currently, I’m just like Ted Mosby minus his interesting stories. lol


  One thought on “Why am I afraid of marriage

  1. August 12, 2013 at 12:33 pm

    What a hilarious narrative ! 🙂
    Anyway, looking forward to reading a post on your wedding very soon ! 🙂

    P.S : Ted’s been dragging his story for 8 long seasons. It’s become stale now :/

    • August 12, 2013 at 1:18 pm

      Thank you! Hope Ted finds his girl this fall 🙂

  2. Ron
    August 12, 2013 at 10:06 pm

    Take your time. Think carefully about it.

    • August 12, 2013 at 10:28 pm

      Sure Ron!

  3. August 23, 2013 at 1:06 am

    When the time is right , everything will fall in place. Wish you good luck and lots of blessings.

    • August 23, 2013 at 8:35 am

      Thanks for the blessings Indira Maa 🙂

  4. November 9, 2013 at 11:53 pm

    You said no to marriage because of laptop. Isn’t it funny ???

    • November 10, 2013 at 12:02 am

      Yes, it is! See how funny I was at 27 🙂
      Thanks for stopping by Praveena!

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