I recently went home on a vacation. When my relatives stop by my home, they just asked me two questions.
1. How are you?
2. Why haven’t you got married yet ?
I have no answer on why I’m hesitant but here’s a little history…
When I’m 25, and my mom wants me to marry a girl…
I told mom that I’m not settled and I don’t even own a laptop. Yeah you heard right, Laptop! I said no to marriage because I did not have a laptop.
Btw, I bought a high config laptop with the help of my mom in a week.
I told that I have to switch to a bigger company and earn more. I did get in to a decent company later.
Sometime during the age 27, while I was on my way home and when I came to know that the bride’s family is visiting us, I was about to get down from bus and run away. My uncle stopped me though. I somehow got rid of it.
When I’m 29, I had to go through a tough time convincing my mom and relatives that I’m not ready.
Then I got visa. Thanks to the US consulate officer for saving me from family pressure :). I flew to the US. That helped in delaying things.
I’m 30 now and when I asked mom an another year, so that I can save some money to buy a house in chennai. she said ‘Shut up’ :|.
So what are my expectations? Nothing!! Why I’m so hesitant? Here’s what I’m scared of…
- Matrimony sites really suck. I did not like the idea of showing my picture and profile saying ‘I’m looking for a Bride’ to the world.
- I’m not influenced by the statement ‘Single is simple, Double is trouble’ but somehow I feel that moving on from being single is an expensive sacrifice. :s
- I hate sitting on a marriage hall for hours where the entire crowd is looking at me.
Ok, so how about loving someone ? Hmm, Love didn’t work out for me right from my childhood 😀
And…I have seen my friends and people who waited eagerly and very excited about their marriage. Is that so special?? I will post when I happen to experience those special and magical moments!
Currently, I’m just like Ted Mosby minus his interesting stories. lol